{"id":25284,"date":"2020-04-07T07:22:08","date_gmt":"2020-04-07T05:22:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.tipandshaft.com\/?p=25284"},"modified":"2020-06-30T10:42:53","modified_gmt":"2020-06-30T08:42:53","slug":"conrad-humphreys-dont-fear-the-isolation-see-it-as-an-opportunity","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sailorz.com\/en\/world-news-en\/conrad-humphreys-dont-fear-the-isolation-see-it-as-an-opportunity\/","title":{"rendered":"Conrad Humphreys: “Don’t fear the isolation, see it as an opportunity”"},"content":{"rendered":"

When there appears to be dozens of solo sailors giving us their positive ideas for surviving or indeed profiting from isolation\u00a0it is interesting to turn to\u00a0Conrad Humphreys<\/a>. Humphreys has a unique background. His peak as a solo racer was a very tough\u00a0Vend\u00e9e Globe in 2004-5<\/a>\u00a0placing seventh in 107 days, after repairing and replacing his rudder off South Africa and finishing with no power. He has two round the world crewed races under his belt, winning the\u00a02000-1 BT Global Challenge<\/strong>\u00a0as skipper and he raced on Odessa in the 1993 Whitbread Race. But in 2016 Humphreys was sailing master on\u00a0Mutiny\u00a0a 4000 mile reality TV 60 day voyage<\/strong>\u00a0from Tonga to Timor with a crew of nine on a 23 foot (7m) open boat recreating Captain Bligh\u2019s voyage after mutineers cast them adrift from the Bounty. He is an accomplished motivational and team building coach and consultant working for many blue chip companies.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

Conrad, what is the essence of harmony and working together as a team or a small family unit for example. Not everyone has had the choice of who they are spending time with in an enclosed space. And what is common to building a strong crew which will cope well with adversity?<\/strong>
\nIn essence we had a metre of space each over the course of 60 days. That is not too very dissimilar to what some people are being asked to do here. The starting point was starting out and stating what we were hoping to achieve. Bligh would have said \u2018our objective is to get food and water and we stay safe and of course that is what people are doing now. He would have painted a very clear picture about how they were going to survive and where they were going to get to.\u00a0Daily briefings and debriefs are important<\/strong>, we have them from our leaders (Prime Minister), this is about being present and people seeing a leader every day who gives confidence that things are happening. I remember the first night, we spoke about how we would survive, the discipline needed and the way people needed to be honest and open about how they are feeling.<\/p>\n

How to avoid conflict?<\/strong>
\nThe key to avoiding conflict is\u00a0to really understand what makes people tick<\/strong>. You have to be open and maintain dialogue to understand what people\u2019s motives, what their hopes and dreams are. In most family and team environments you know each other well enough to leave each other alone if people are clearly not feeling great, for example in the mornings. Some people are morning people some very definitely aren\u2019t. People came to Mutiny with different agendas. Mine was to make sure people were safe and got to the end with as little conflict as possible.\u00a0My interest was in the team dynamics and maintaining harmony on board<\/strong>. I look a lot at the experience of the Volvo and you put nine or ten super pro sailors together but you don\u2019t give them a mechanism to download then what you get is a very stiff upper lip type \u2018we are professionals, we don\u2019t need to talk about problems, we get on with the sailing\u2019 and I think you will find the top,\u00a0best performing teams they are the ones who have the ability to share their experiences<\/strong>\u00a0and not keep everything bottled up. I think we saw that in the last race.<\/p>\n

What is your philosophy on leadership?<\/strong>
\nExperience counts for a huge amount. In Mutiny even though everyone looked to me for leadership even though Ant Middleton was cast as Captain Bligh, the skipper. In a crisis everyone looked to what we were going to do on the sailing side to me.\u00a0Ultimately decisions were taken by me but my relationship with Ant was really critical on the voyage<\/strong>. He was our leader, our captain, but my role was to support his decision making without him feeling threatened. Maybe on sailing teams the leader is there as figure head but with very good watch captains.\u00a0I am a big advocate of shared leadership<\/strong>. I think of my own family right now, stressed more than we usually are, juggling\u00a0 the kids schooling, one predictable income one not so predictable, but we have absolutely got to lead together. I have been focusing on my Vend\u00e9e Globe stuff.\u00a0We had moments we had a young Scouse guy Chris who was a talented sailor but he came from a dark place, he found it difficult to be told what to do. He caused conflict and was not a team player. What should happen is you nip that in the bud. I should have promoted him and given him responsibility.\u00a0Under pressure to deliver, destabilising characters often flourish<\/strong>\u00a0with responsibility and pressure. What Ant did was more militaristic was to almost demote him and take away responsibilities and I think that was the wrong thing to do. It made him feel less valued and more prone to kicking off. We have all sailed with difficult characters.\u00a0<\/strong>You have to work out what motivates them and what makes them tick.\u00a0 I took Chris under my wing and taught him all I could one to one. We had the luxury of time, like we do now.<\/p>\n

Recognising people are just simply tired and grumpy through stress and extreme tiredness is important too, even in the team or one on one environment?<\/strong>
\nOn the Vend\u00e9e Globe Vikki (Conrad\u2019s wife) became by default my coach. Every day the conversation would be similar. \u2018Have you slept? Have you eaten?\u2019 She could tell the answer by voice. If I was struggling fixing something. Sometimes you want someone to empathise.\u00a0Most of the time though you don\u2019t really want someone empathising you just want a kick up the backside<\/strong>, but the key is when you deliver that. Do you try empathise or do you just say \u2018no, come on we\/you are good enough to get there\u2019 And you go from there. I remember about a week from Les Sables d\u2019Olonne my generator had packed up. My main engine had gone in the Southern Ocean. I was nursing the boat with no rams, the keel was lashed, we tried to cant the keel with this particular lashings. All of a sudden\u00a0I was a week from the finish and had no way of charging the instruments or pilot<\/strong>. I tried to balance the sails to make a simple bungee system to hold the tiller and the boat kept crash tacking. We were near the Azores, the wind was unstable and I was so tired but trying to sleep on deck just holding the tiller. I couldn\u2019t. After the 10th\u00a0crash tack I called her and said \u2018I can\u2019t do this. I can\u2019t sail this boat 1000 miles to the finish without an autpilot\u2026I can\u2019t do it\u2026..\u201d
\nShe said, bluntly, \u201cConrad.\u00a0If Jean Pierre Dick can sail 12,000 miles with no engine. I am sure you can sail 1000 miles to the finish<\/strong>.\u201d
\nI was livid. I was so angry. I should have said \u2018Jean Pierre Dick has a brand new boat, he has solar panels, he has go all that stuff. What do you know?….But I put the phone down. I don\u2019t think we spoke for three days. But what I did was take the sails down. I slept. I put them up and tried again and it worked and I got back. But it was the only time in the entire race where she maybe misjudged the situation, the rest of the time she was spot on. But that time\u2026I was livid. But it kicked my arse and got me home.<\/p>\n

Loneliness affects solo sailors as well as lock downs, what is your advice?\u00a0<\/strong>
\nOne of the mantras I am saying is\u00a0don\u2019t fear the isolation<\/strong>. It makes us more resilient. It makes us more adaptable. As we exit out of this scenario we will find that we are more resourceful, more able to cope with situations. Don\u2019t be too hard on yourself. During the Vend\u00e9e Globe I suffered from voices in my head which were critical of performance, of strategy, of tactics. And they never gave me a break, making me feel terrible. So learn to deal with them. Take moments of the day to reflect positively. And say \u2018I did something good. I made a good sail change at the right time.\u2019 Without people around you who might naturally give you a pat on the back or pick you up, learn to do it yourself.\u00a0Give yourself a pat on the back<\/strong>. That does not come easily to people who are highly driven. But do it.<\/p>\n

What about the elements of rest and routine? Do you have fixed ideas\u2026.?\u00a0<\/strong>
\nHow you structure day is key now and sailing offshore. We have all worked with sleep and nutrition specialists and psychologists. I am a morning person. I work to that strength. I learned to do all the critical thinking type stuff in the morning, strategy, weather first thing. And as a morning person I learned to take siestas in the afternoon. On the Vend\u00e9e that was my best and most productive sleep was in the afternoon. I would give myself my longest, maybe an hour, to relax, chill and rest in the afternoon. The position skeds every four hours are like an exam.\u00a0<\/strong>You need to deal with it in a way which does not then directly affect your performance. I was conscious during the Global Challenge when I walked on deck with the sked careful that if we had lost miles we would lose even more because people would be demotivated. Dealing with setbacks you have to be able to park it and move on. Don\u2019t brood. It is done. Move on.\u00a0The best way is to really stick to a routine and keep the big goal in mind<\/strong>. My Vend\u00e9e went from \u2018I want to be in the top 10 to being 4000 miles behind and in a different race.\u00a0I plotted all of Mich Desj\u2019s positions from the 2001 race<\/strong>\u00a0and then used his targets each day to then sail my own race. I thought if I can keep up with him it is my own race and so I did catch and pass other boats.<\/p>\n

What are your thoughts on frequency and contact with outside world?<\/strong>
\nI joke that\u00a0I spoke more with Vikki during 104 days at sea than ten years of living with her before<\/strong>. I think it is important to have a network of people to converse with on different levels for different things. The converse is that we are bombarded with content all the time. That can be overwhelming. So cut through the noise and decide what is important and stick to that. On a boat you only have so much time and energy. So\u00a0focus your time and energy on exactly what you need<\/strong>, both ways, support of giving advice. Cut out the random noisy stuff. Right now there are people twiddling their thumbs with nothing to do but read social media. They don\u2019t have a balanced view and might spiral downwards. It is all about control. If you can achieve things and control your environment, being content on getting through each day, you are less likely to be affected like that. That is what the Vend\u00e9e is. Some days you say \u2018I can\u2019t get through this. I can\u2019t do it\u2019 And the smallest things trigger a melt down. Once I cut my thumb, a tiny little cut. And I could not open a Ziploc bag to get my mars bar out and I nearly broke down. The thing there is to remind yourself \u2018this is not normal, don\u2019t beat yourself up about it.\u2019<\/p>\n

Sometimes it can all be too much. For example the start of the Vend\u00e9e Globe is overwhelming. How do you cope?<\/strong>
\nIn any big task break it down to small bite sized pieces. It can be overwhelming, if you are planning a Vend\u00e9e Globe or setting up a Volvo Team it can be overwhelming. Compare it with our kids at the moment, trying to make it feel normal and focus on one thing at a time. They have school, have breaks, do their PE and don\u2019t feel overwhelmed. And again,\u00a0some days just pat yourself on the back for getting through the day, reward yourselves<\/strong>. And in one or two months we can look back and say \u2018we got through that.\u2019 We have so much freedom in our lives and that we are not used to being confined or held back, that has been a problem. But you have to be able to adapt and adapt and adapt.\u00a0Remember Yves Parlier and that ability to see the problem change and readapt<\/strong>. There was a remarkable mindset.<\/p>\n

Omnipresent TV cameras made people act differently. What is your view on communication with the outside world for Vend\u00e9e Globe sailors, and again is there a learning for us now?<\/strong>
\nIt is really interesting. I found cameras liberating.\u00a0I shot 12 hours of footage during the Vend\u00e9e Globe and it became a friend<\/strong>. I could talk and offload to. I think some people are making positive use of social media in the same way now. My case was 15 years ago and there was no \u2018live\u2019 so you were just offloading and talking to a box. Look at Gabart for example who loves telling people exactly what is happening and when and that medium is perfect. Others don\u2019t enjoy that. It is vital to tell your story as it is shared. If people now can have a voice and a positive impact now is the time.<\/p>\n

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